As I work to improve my skills as a coach, there is a suggested best practice that if a coach can relate an experience that a client finds stressful, to an experience that is typically less stressful, the client will understand their stressful situation more clearly. This is what I have found with my poker analogy. In poker, you will be dealt either a good hand or a bad hand. Regardless of the hand you are dealt, it is the hand you have to play. More of your energy should be spent figuring out how to play the hand. By comparing their workplace to a poker hand – my clients seem better able to understand their situations, and more importantly, think more clearly about what to do about them.
In this HCI Podcast episode, Dr. Westover talks with Ed Evarts about leadership coaching, “playing the hand you have been dealt,” and the idea that “pausing is powerful.”
When you have a positive relationship with your boss, many wonderful and career-enhancing things are possible. Opportunities, praise, promotions, pay increases are just a few. Your life as an employee is easier, you have more impact, and you’re in a stronger position to drive your career forward. When I think of the benefits of having a positive relationship with your boss, I come up with an acronym that spells the word “help.”
As my tenure as a coach grows, and as I meet an increasing number of client prospects, I have noticed recurring themes among individuals who don’t think about working with a coach, or who don’t want a coach.
When wanting to get more involved in your organization and industry, consider organizing your participation activities by contributions, engagement, attending and leading.
As my tenure as a coach grows, and as I meet an increasing number of client prospects, I have noticed recurring themes among individuals who do not think about working with a coach, or who do not want a coach, which I have recapped below.
I typically visit with clients every other week at their offices, and one of the details I observe is the status of my client’s office whiteboards.
A whiteboard that does not change from meeting to meeting reflects your state of mind – inflexible, boring, and inactive.
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The most important relationship you have at work is with your boss. While you may not be best friends with your boss, your boss should always speak about you in positive ways. In this video, listen and watch as Ed talks about this relationship and ways to improve upon it.
Every leader should be asking her colleagues “What 1 – 2 things can I be doing differently in order to be more successful?” This helps build relationships and your leadership presence. In this video, listen and watch as Ed talks about the importance of asking that million dollar question.